How To Juggle Work/Life Balance
I’ve always been the type of person who has to be ‘doing something’, I’m not one to just sit about waiting for something amazing to happen, because I know nothing worth having comes easy, and dreams don’t work unless I do.
My mind is ALWAYS switched on, and I often think of my brain as a computer with 50 different tabs open constantly, which makes for trying to relax or sleep quite a difficult task sometimes.
I’m quite an impulsive and impatient person too, which means if an idea springs to my mind, I HAVE to start working on it right away, which often leads to more tabs being left open in my brain.
From the age of 14, I have always had a job, sometimes even two jobs at one time. Working day and night, and weekends too, which often left me with no free time for myself, to see friends, or just to clean my house. I was always on the go, living to please everyone else, never saying no and living life without really ‘living’.
I’m almost 28 years old now, and I’ve lived out of home since I was 18, so I’ve always been quite independent, buying my own car, paying my own bills, and cooking my own meals. I was the first out of my group of friends to move out of home and I bought my first car with my own money that I earn’t from my first job. I’m a hard worker, and everything that has happened in my life is an accumulation of that hard work.
Being older and wiser now, I know and believe it is so important to make time for yourself, spending at least 30 minutes alone a day in the quiet to gather your thoughts and find peace within yourself is so important for your mind, body and soul. We often get so caught up in our day to day lives that we forget to look after ourselves. By taking time out to refresh yourself, and understand yourself, means you can be more focused to do purposeful work.
Life for me now can get pretty demanding and hectic at times, especially with the demands of social media, emails, text messages and phone calls, it can sometimes feel like there is no escape. I literally have to make the decision to turn off my phone and ipad and put it in the draw just to escape from the world sometimes.
I work a full time job Monday to Friday, I volunteer for various community groups, which i’m often at meetings for during the week nights, as well as replying to messages and emails while in bed with my cup of tea, I run events and coordinate various programs for my own business, as well as all my fundraising work for the charities that i’m passionate about, while attending events as Miss Australia International 2016 and doing the day to day life chores such as cleaning my house, going grocery shopping, washing, gardening, cooking, and then family time with my loved ones and catching up with friends.
People are often shocked when they find out I work full time, and wonder how I manage to do all the things I do. To be honest, I would have a lot more time on my hands if I didn’t have to work, but If i didn’t work i wouldn’t be able to pay my bills and buy the things I want to (I’m a massive shopaholic, and addicted to all things glitzy hehe) Besides, I love my job, I love everything I do in my life, and it makes me happy. Everything I do is to better somebody else’s life, I’m making a difference every single day. I’m living a purpose driven life, and it fulfils me. My cup is always full, which means I can give myself to others without feeling empty.
In all the busyness of my life, I try to take time out for myself every day, which sometimes can be difficult, but I always make it something I ensure I do. Whether it’s driving to work without the radio on so i can just think, going for a walk or just sitting with my eyes closed in a quiet room. I remember the very first time I laid on my yoga mat under a tree in my back yard, closing my eyes and just being still. It was the strangest thing, just laying there without my phone, without music, just listening to the sound of nature. I didn’t know what to do, or what to think about for that matter, until i slowed my breathing and slowed down all the noise and thoughts in my head until everything became clear again. It’s incredible what a bit of quite time can do for your mind and soul, and I believe it’s something we all need to do from time to time to re-connect with our thoughts, goals and purpose.
As I’ve grown older, I have come to understand that YOU have to come FIRST. You can’t always be working and doing everything for everyone else, because there comes a point where your candle starts to flicker and it will eventually burn out. I strongly believe that you can’t give yourself fully to your dreams and goals if you aren’t ‘full’ of yourself either. Your cup needs be full, overflowing, so you can then give yourself to the world without feeling eventually becoming empty.
‘Working hard for something we don’t care about is called stress. Working hard for something we love is called passion.’
So what do I like to do in my downtime you may ask? Well as you can probably tell, i’m very much a girly girl, and one thing I absolutely love doing is visiting my sponsor, Saya Beaute Bar and being pampered. Nothing goes past a relaxing facial or manicure, and if I have an important event to attend, I like nothing more than getting my hair and makeup done.
I love shopping, getting a coffee and cake with my girlfriends, and long walks around my beautiful Mornington Peninsula with my man and our two Siberian Huskies, breathing in the fresh country air and just talking about life together.
If I can offer any advice to you today, it’s to take a look at your life and the things you are doing. Is it making you happy? Does it excite you? Is your cup overflowing with purpose and love? Is your mind clear and focused? Are you taking time out for yourself? If not, then a change needs to be made. You weren’t born to just pay bills and die.
'May god fill you up until you overflow and impact others’
Love always, Miss Australia International 2016 - Jessica Martini